You’ve already taken the first step by wanting to find out how to control anger. Good for you! If you want to learn how to express anger healthily, there’s good news: for many people, it is definitely possible. But it does require your focused attention, time, and practice. It’s also important to get to know yourself better on a deeper and constructive level: what is the neutral nature of anger? What say about me when I feel upset or angry? And what do I need to do in order to learn to deal with anger in a healthy and constructive way?

One thing is certain: you must do the inner work yourself. No one else can do this for you. However, as soon as you are willing to put in the effort, much is possible! It begins with understanding the psychology of emotions and feelings. Next, you need to become more aware of how you’ve dealt with anger so far. After all, dealing with anger isn’t new to you. You’ve already developed all kinds of patterns in it, both consciously and unconsciously. 

When old patterns prove unhelpful, you’re faced with the challenge of learning to walk new paths. Step by step, you need to develop new strategies for dealing with anger that are more effective and less destructive. It is also vital to remove the stinger(s) so recovery can happen— from the inside out. This way, you work towards a lasting behavioral change— durable and effective. If you don’t do this, you’ll notice little to no progress at the bottlenecks, and sometimes your behavior may even worsen. Therefore, follow the step-by-step plan I’ve carefully put together for you. With each step, take the time to reflect: how does this work for me?

Following the steps in my self-paced action plan will help you refine and deepen your skills in controlling anger effectively. At the same time, you’ll learn to stay safe and develop a kind attitude toward yourself. It makes sense to start with the first step and then move forward. Choose what you need that fits your budget, purchase your next step, and get started!

The psychology workbooks listed below will help you navigate your own and others’ humanity in a friendly and constructive way. They explain how different elements work, why they are there, and what you need to develop sustainable recovery, growth, change, and leadership. Don’t just focus on reading; start answering the reflection questions and completing the assignments. This will help you discover what works best for you. What do you need to do to align your thinking, feeling, and doing to find inner peace and balance? 

EXPECTED – The practical guide Living with anger and rage explains layer by layer how anger can develop, what role it plays in your daily life, where your natural influence lies, and how you can use that influence to recover from the inside out and achieve lasting, constructive results. This book is an addition to the handbook The Wisdom Behind Emotion and Feeling.

It is crucial to begin with the basics: developing your inner balance. Without this balance, it’s unsafe to overload yourself with intense emotions, feelings, pain, and tensions. When you have too little inner space, you lack an internal filter in contact and communication. As a result, emotions and comments can be received more harshly than intended by the other person. That’s why you need to naturally expand your inner space from within, so you can stay better balanced. I created the online training course Inner Balance specifically for this purpose. The training has been available since 2012 and has been extensively tested and improved. Every person who has taken the online course as intended has experienced deeper peace and balance within a few weeks!

Learning by doing

Join the self-paced 14-week online training course Inner Balance. Create more inner space and achieve deeper emotional and mental harmony while laying a foundation for lasting positive change. Align your thoughts, feelings, and actions. You can complete the course at your own pace. Purchase it separately or combine it with guidance. Below, at step 3 of this action plan, you’ll find more details about the guidance options.

The online training program Inner Balance is currently being retranslated from Dutch to English.

My books, online training courses, and masterclasses are comprehensive resources that include clear explanations, recovery-focused strategies, and a thoughtful therapeutic framework. This approach allows you to make genuine progress while increasing emotional intelligence. As long as you respect my copyright and intellectual property (please buy your own copies!), you’re free to use my products on your own or alongside my guidance.

I am unable to assist with urgent anger management issues because my work concentrates on different areas and stages of life guidance. I recommend seeking someone who specializes in hands-on anger management and understands the complex emotional dynamics involved. Have you dealt with anger before? Are your current life and work circumstances safe and steady? Do you want to pursue deeper personal and professional growth now? If so, you are in the right place. With plenty of love and space, I listen to you and teach you how to help yourself recover and grow.

My guidance emphasizes supporting you as a professional in your sustainable learning and change journey, where well-being and quality are achieved in a layered, profound, and coherent way. Such a process requires a commitment from both of us in terms of time, energy, and attention. When you choose my guidance and training, you opt for personalized support tailored to your specific needs and background. By aligning with the natural process, my clients achieve results that exceed their expectations.

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Hi, my name is Wendy van Mieghem. As a psychologist and sociologist, I am happy to support you in increasing your emotional intelligence and learning how to apply it. Connecting with your human nature and caring for it in a supportive, healing way helps you achieve more lasting, positive behavioral change.

Getting to know yourself and others better allows you to connect more deeply and with greater nuance to what is needed. This way, step by step, you can reach the goal or result you desire in a sustainable and effective manner. Both personally and professionally.

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Warm regards,

Wendy van Mieghem